Get out your timer!

I wonder what my mom looked like? Did she have curly hair… brown eyes? I guess adoption.com states there was a study done that mentions adoptees have a higher chance of having ADHD. So now that’s another question. Did I inherit it, or was it factored by my adoption? Both? I guess if I were to find out then what? Sometimes we’re so focused on the “how” (Freud…) that we forget about the most important part. What can I do with what I have. Can I exchange it? Has anyone asked? No. Because everyone’s worried about something that can’t be controlled.

“Um ma’am… I know you want to give your baby up for adoption, but didn’t you know she will be at higher risk for ADHD”

“Oh.. really? That’s been… it’s a confirmed study? Ok then never mind, I’ll just keep her- shit I never thought of a name….. Umm what day is it?”

We focus so much on the why…. and not “we” like the scientists that could potentially cure it (stem-cell?) but like everyone else.

I was told by a supervisor of mine one time that the more energy you give someone or something, the more it expands. I thought crap… you’re right. I changed that day. By ONE STATEMENT!

THE MORE ENERGY YOU GIVE TO WHATEVER YOU’RE GIVING IT TO… THE MORE IT EXPANDS.

Here’s an example… I am mad(energy) at my husband for doing… well basically everything he does. (Not True-Jess not on her period). Until my energy changes…I’ll just keep getting more mad AND what I’m focused on (the behavior I’m mad at) expands.

Now when I’m frustrated, I think – can/should it be fixed. If not I let it go and move on. And I’m telling you this is THE TRUTH- when I “let it go” I find I don’t bring it up after that…. it-doesn’t expand. It’s a miracle. I’ve done it my whole life obviously but never knew and never used it when I really should have. If you use it, let me know how it works.

You can’t ignore it, that’s not the same. It’s like Marie Kondo-ing you’re life on a daily basis! You need to LET IT GO! Thank the son of a B and set it free.

If you were adopted and have ADHD I guess you’re part of the statistic. But that’s it… find out what executive functions you’re lagging- connect with me and we’ll figure it out.

CLUE 1: If you think you’re great at telling time? Think again.

-Jess

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Jessica Duzeski

Attention DIFFERENT disorder. Stephan Tonti coined the saying... maybe? My ears heard it from him first and I haven’t heard it since so, he’s the guy. He directs plays & film, public speaks, and holds a disposable camera from time to time. I don’t want him to think I have been following him, and not to his surprise it wouldn’t be unorthodox of me to just search his “about” right before I write mine. (Insert half grin here). It’s true. I did that. As a compliment. You see I have ADD. If he spoke about his ADD and then went on to say he’s soaked in everything Human Services then sure, maybe I would have looked him up earlier. The point is, I remembered what he said and have been saying it since. I do reference him if he were to wonder. (If you’ve had a spike in followers...you’re welcome). My name is Jess and I have ADD. Maybe ADHD, I haven’t really looked too into it other than filling out a couple of questionairs while getting prescribed some assisting medication. I’m from a smaller town in Wisconsin. I was adopted at 6 weeks old. Fast forward 31 years later and here we are. I’m married, have 3 handsome boys, and a husband... who says he understands ADD, but as the course of this blog unfolds you’ll see, he doesn’t. It makes life difficult at times. This particular blog is to shed light on both sides of this disorder. The difference is unlike most, myself, my husband and our followers will be doing it together. Welcome to “The Point”. Jess

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